Advice: Dressing for your shape (for women)

Pear Shape

Characterized by a slender neck, narrow shoulders, small bust, refined rib cage, shapely waist, generous lower hips, full thighs. You've got a fabulous waistline that is feminine and perfect for all those waist accentuating styles!

# Straight skirts should be tapered toward the hemline to avoid a square look.

# Pants should be made of flowing fabrics and drape loosely around the hips.

# Shoulder pads are your friend.

# Blouses and jackets should be either long or short, avoiding the hip.

# Enhance your upper body with semi-fitted or tailored tops.

# Softly gathered waistlines for skirts and trousers keep lines smooth and comfortable.

# Handbags should be worn above the hip area to avoid drawing attention to the hip area.


Examples of Pear Shaped celebrities:

Inverted Triangle

Inverted Triangle shaped women are usually quite top heavy compared to their lower half. Usually they are characterised by broader shoulders, larger bust and quite narrow hips and legs. You're known for having an athletic-looking body shape! Your frame is quite common among catwalk models. And often your type of shape comes with nice, lean legs :)


# Choose bottoms that flare to balance out the larger upper half of the body. Skirts and pants with a flare add the illusion of size.

# Pick tops that show off thin arms to flatter this body type. Sleeveless tops and flutter sleeve tops accomplish this goal.

# Wear darker colors on top and lighter colors on the bottom. This minimizes the top half. Lighter colors also create the illusion of a larger bottom half, and creates proportion.

# Buy tops that cover the hip area. This hides the wider waist that inverted triangle body types have. It also draws the attention towards the shapely and slim legs associated with an inverted triangle body type.

# Try tops that have less detail. Details draw attention to the top, and will make an inverted triangle's top even more noticeable.

Celebrities with Inverted Triangle Shaped bodies:



Apple Body Type

Apple Body Types

It means you have a full chest, upper back with no or little waist definition. You might appear top heavy. And your bust and mid-riff might appear bigger than your hips. Also known as 'oval' and 'round'.

Another sign that can indicate you're an apple is that when you gain weight the fat gets easily stored around your upper half -- especially around your midsection. But, note that it does not necessarily mean you are overweight.

* Try out a floaty tee such as a tunic style top. It will skim around the waist.
* Try an empire waist shirt that begins under the bust to draw attention away from the stomach.
* Wear shirts that reach lower than your waist to reduce the chance of "muffin top"escaping from where your shirt meets your trousers. If you like your hips to look a little more in balance with your bust, try a shirt that meets the largest point of the hips.
* Choose a shirt with a slightly lower neckline to keep the eyes moving upwards. Pair that with a statement necklace for maximum effect.

Celebrities with Apple Body Shapes:




The Hourglass




An hourglass body type has moderate to large bust and hips, and a small waist-generally 10 inches smaller than the bust and hips. The hourglass is the most highly desired body type for women due to its femininity. Dressing to flatter the hourglass body type focuses on proportion, since the top and bottom half balance out so well.



# Choose tops that define your small waist. Wrap tops, tie waist tops or belted tops are great examples of this.

# Show off a great bust. Scoop necks tops and V-neck tops are examples of tops that accomplish this for an hourglass body type.

# Try wearing single piece outfits. They don't break up the figure like a two piece outfit, which flatters an hourglass body type's curves.

# Wear straight leg or slightly flared bottoms. Baggy pants give the appearance of more roundness, so opt for the pants that are fitted at the top that help define and flatter the slim waist.

# Avoid necklines that hit high on the neck like turtlenecks. They draw attention away from the waist-the main asset of the hourglass.

# Select skirts that hit right above the knee or lower. While shorter skirts draw attention away from the waist, the longer lengths show off legs while still accentuating the waist area on an hourglass body type.

Celebrities with hourglass bodies:



Petite




No real description needed for this one. If you are petite, you know it, haha!


# Look for proportional clothes. Don't settle for jackets that are too long in the sleeves or make your shoulders look big. Let tops land where they're supposed to, preferably at waist level. Purchase structured clothes or clothes with seaming at the waist to emphasize your waist.

# Find a good tailor so your clothes fit your body shape. Many petite people need not only their pants hemmed, but the sleeves of their tops and jackets taken up as well.

# Show off your legs. Choose skirts that hit above the knee to make your legs look longer. Avoid calf-length or ankle-length skirts that make you look shorter than you are. Mini-skirts are okay, depending on your age, your comfort level and your body shape.

# Purchase straight-legged pants. Tapered pants look awful no matter what your body type is, and boot cut or flared pants make petite women look shorter than they are. Get your pants properly hemmed so the hems brush the tops of your shoes.

# Heals! Heals! Heals!

Celebrities with petite frames:

Ahoy hoy!

So. I haven´t been here in a while. A lot of crazy stuff has happened lately.

I spent a lot of time with one of my amazing girlie friends in Lismore, Madelinee, who I stayed with for about a week or so? We just hung around the city, drinking and what not.
I have two additional piercings: tongue and septum. I had to take my tongue out, though, because I did it when severely drunk and I really shouldn´t have. SO DON´T TRY A TONGUE PIERCING AT HOME.
Go to a professional or you may end up with an infection, okay? :)

I am thinking about doing a major detox soon. Healthy food and no alcohol maybe. I have been drinking a little too much lately and it has been effecting my health, so I´m considering going off all alcohol and bad food. Maybe it will cure my horrible moods and tummy aches :P

Oh, I CUT ALL MY HAIR OFF! No more long hair for meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I took a quick snap lastnight of it.



Note: Lastnight one of my eyes was very light green and the other was heaps dark. I look semi mentally deficient but I think my eye colour is neat. -shrug-

Anyways I AM OFF TO SYDNEY IN FOUR WEEKS! I will be staying there for a week so any Sydney people who wanna catch up in the city & go shopping - message me! ^-^


Will be writing up a new Advice blog tonight so stay tuned.

Love, Kiny xx

The week that was.

I´m having trouble with my memory. I don´t remember Monday, or Tuesday for that matter. I think I was really high and went without sleep for 36 hours. I´m not sure if it was Monday/Tuesday or Wednesday/Thursday.

I´m not having a good week mentally. A lot of self esteem issues and low points. Probably due to my recent escalation in substance intake. Too much cheap wine and not enough Endorphins! D:<
My plan is to do heaps of exercise this week and eat really well so I can balance myself out. I also want to have less cigarettes and less bad food. It´s not good for my vitality or appearence so I don´t understand why I´m still doing it. Argh.

Otherwise, I´ve had an exciting week. Dinner with Ashh on Friday was lovely, as it always is with dear Ashley Weston :) I ordered this sushi plate that I expected to be the size of NORMAL sushi, but it was like FREAKISHLY HUGE sushi and I could only chow 4 out of 8.



I look like a complete dude in drag in this photo but I don´t care. :P Note my teal backless leotard (favourite clothing item) and GIANT leopard print bow. I was going to the 80´s look, I think. Especially with my brand new red blazer in my lap. Power dressing >;D
Anyways, so after Ashley and I went for din dins, I went back to Ballina and met up with Karli dear. We were having a bit of a low time so I suggested we go to Hungry Jacks, buy some coke and listen to lame hip hop music. We ended up sitting in the car park till about midnight like really classy people :|

Lastnight Karli and I dressed up as goon fairies (because we were drinking goon - aye der) now, I think Karli and Brad thought I was insane as fuck when I started cutting up cardboard boxes and laughing evily. Especially when I attacked Karli with sticky tape. I had fun >;D





Tralalalalala <3

Piercing practice. :)

Someone on Formspring asked me about how I deal with a customer and what I do when I am doing a piercing on someone. Sooooo here it goes.

In most cases the people come to my house. I wash my hands thoroughly and apply a fresh pair of gloves. Once or twice I have run out of gloves (sadly) but have still done the piercing if it was on someone I trusted not to be disease infested so it was okay.

I always use sterilised tools and disposable needles, and when I pierce at my place I lay the person down and get the comfortable, usually chatting to them as I get everything set up. I get a clean plate and lay an alcohol wipe down, setting my clamp, fresh needle and sterilised jewellery down and then I clean the area I am going to pierce.

I either make a mark where I am going to pierce, or get the person who is getting pierced to make a mark if they feel they can choose a spot better than myself. I clamp the area I am going to pierce, where it is marked of course, and check each side of the clamp.

Then I proceed to pierce the mark, straight through so the needle comes out either sides of the skin. Then I pull the clamps off and slide the jewellery through.
Then I clean the wound, collect the money and voila! All done :)

Self harm.

I´m putting a couple of other blog entries on hold for just a moment to have a little personal rant.

Self harm is not a failed suicide attempt, self harm is not just to be attention seeking and it is not a joke. Self-injury is highly addictive and equally as highly misunderstood. There are cases of people self-injuring as a show of self-hatred and there are cases of people doing it purely for attention. Now, people also misconstrue the attention thing. As soon as someone says: ¨She/he cuts themselves for attention.¨ People instantly make fun of them/have a bad opinion of said person. But, if you think about it logically, the idea that someone needs to go to the extent of hurting oneself for any amount of validation is proof enough that they need help.

Self harm also is not just about cutting ones wrist and being ¨Emo¨.
Self harm can be:
* Burning themselves
* Poisoning or overdosing
* Scratching themselves
* Carving words or symbols on their skin
* Breaking their bones
* Hitting or punching themselves
* Piercing their skin with sharp objects
* Head banging
* Pulling out their hair
* Interfering with wound healing
* Pinching themselves
* Biting themselves

Self-harming can be a way that people deal with feelings of:

* helplessness, despair and low self-esteem
* anger, loneliness, shame and guilt
* not having control over their life
* being 'out of it' – so the only way to feel 'real' is to cause physical pain to themselves.

Some self-harm is related to severe emotional pain. When people have experienced abuse or violence, it often re-appears as emotional pain in later life. Some people have said that:

* When they hurt themselves physically, it helps take away the emotional pain.
* Self-harm makes internal pain visible on the surface. It is showing that there is a problem that needs to be addressed.
* Self-harm is a way that people punish themselves for something.

People who harm themselves...

* may have difficulty expressing their feelings verbally
* may dislike themselves and their bodies
* may do it because of difficulties with relationships
* may do it because of mental health issues such as depression, anxiety or stress.

One thing people don´t realise, is that other than being highly addictive and shameful for the self harmer, it´s not just a slow and steady thing. Self harm progresses and gets worse.
I self harmed from the age of eleven and I am not saying this to get attention, I´m saying this because I want to make people away that it is fucking life changing.

For me, it started with scratching myself. I am not talking about scratching a mosquito bite. I scratched myself until the skin was red and raw; and it would tear. I would bleed and scab and then I would scratch the scabs off. It was terrible. I would end up in these anxious, self mutilating fit until I ended up with skin and blood all over my nails. Around 12 years old I started cutting myself; only little nicks here and there. Mostly around my upper thighs and left wrist. By the age of thirteen I was drinking, cutting, scratching and giving myself smilies with lighters. At fourteen/fifteen was probably my worst time for self harming. I reached such a self deprecation and shameless state I would leave the house still bleeding and not care.

At fifteen I stabbed myself in the leg with a butchers knife three times whilst severely drunk, and ended up in hospital. This time in my life was incredibly hard to deal with. I had been kicked out of home and was suffering from Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress and Depression (which I am still dealing with today). I was in a terrible, terrible state and ran away to Brisbane. I spent Six weeks in Brisbane drinking and taking a lot of drugs. I lost a lot of weight, shaved off all my hair and ended up being arrested for theft - which is why I returned home to my mother, brother and sister.

By the age of sixteen I was back out of home and self harming more than ever. Pills, pot, alcohol, burning, self mutilation - you name it. To this day I struggle with PTSD and Depression. Although I do not cut anymore, and I don´t get high or drunk to mask certain feelings - it´s still there and probably always will be.

How did I stop my self harming?
I suppose in a way I haven´t, to be completely honest. Sometimes I still get upset and the urge to do something harmful rises, but I try my best to ignore it. When things get really tough, I indulge in a few too many drinks, but to each their own I suppose. But, that being said, in many ways I am a lot better. I feel more confident nowadays, and have more ups than downs. I have stopped hurting myself physically and moved onto more constructive ways to deal with myself. I also have an amazing person in my life, my best friend and probably soul mate, Bradley, who has been helping me for the past two years to grow into a happier, more self respecting person.

Why am I writing about this? Because it´s not as simple as ¨Oh that emo, look at their cuts¨, it´s more fucking serious than that. People live with mental illnesses for their entire lives, don´t you think that is enough? They don´t need your judgement or ridicule. They need someone to love and someone to love them.
I´ve watched people suffer my whole life and I could never understand why people mock them and it isn´t until you lose someone to suicide that you really understand that self harm is a serious problem.

I know this blog entry is probably very scrambled and erratic, probably because this subject makes me highly emotional, which is why I don´t open up about my feelings in real life and will not be discussing this blog any further if someone asks me about it. But, I urge you, please support foundations like Beyondblue.com and To Write Love On Her Arms and if you know someone who is, or who you think is, dealing with depression and self harm - do something. Reach out. Don´t ignore it.


<3

Advice: Keeping a girlfriend

So I was asked how to seduce a woman, progress into a relationship and then keep the girl. I don´t really want to write about the seduction thing again. BUT I would like to give my opinions on keeping a woman.

Listen to her. If she has mentioned that something you do bothers her, change your behaviour. If changing your behaviour means changing yourself completely, however, you may want to reconsider the relationship. You shouldn´t ever change your ideals for another person. If it doesn´t feel right, then don´t do it. Like, don´t fucking stop being Vegetarian because she likes meat or something like that, but if she fucking asks you to start doing the dishes more often or stop leaving your shit everywhere - do what she says. Just shut the fuck up, get off your ass and do it. Why? Because it makes her life easier.

I tell this to guys and their like ¨HURR DER when I do what she says without her asking, I don´t get any praise, not even a thankyou.¨
Well, dumb ass, if you´d rather her having a bitch and getting annoyed, keep on truckin´.

Be considerate. Recognize when she needs you to be there for her and when she needs to be alone. Now, women are really complicated creatures, like I said before, so you need to understand when she says ¨I want to be alone¨ could mean a whole heap of things.
a) I´m saying this because I want you to make the effort
b) Hold me.
c) I don´t want to fucking talk to you, asshole.
d) I am so disappointed.

Confide in her. Open up to her in a way that you don't do for most people. Keep her secrets when she does the same to you. This builds trust and trust is really important to girls. You break our trust once and it hurts forever, really. We say that we don´t care or that we forgive you, but in the future something can trigger it and it plays on our minds. Don´t lie. Seriously, sometimes it is easier to lie, but lying just doubles the distrust. If you fuck up and then lie about it, that´s two things she has to feel distrustful about and, in most cases, she will be more upset that you lied.

Defend her. If someone is teasing her take her side or no side.
There is NOTHING worst then fighting a losing battle against your boyfriend. The worst thing you can do is tease her in front of people. Why would you want someone you really like/love feel like their worthless? Because that is most likely how she would feel, man.

Make her feel special. While it is completely permissible for you to be friends with other girls, don't flirt. Don't talk about other girls' appearances in front of her either, even if it's a celebrity, unless you have the type of relationship where you are both okay with it. Tell her occasionally: "You're my only girl" or "you're the only girl I have feelings for" or something similar.

* Never ignore her. It hurts immensely, and if you ignore her enough it may make her think about dumping you (although she won't let you know unless she decides to go through with it). Don't leave her waiting, either.

* Text her when you're thinking about her. But DO NOT text anything you might not want her friends or family to read. Because once you have sent it, its on her phone forever for anyone to read.

Compliment her. Tell her she is beautiful, especially when she least expects it. Girls can spend a lot of effort trying to look nice, and it will make her happy that you noticed. Make your compliments meaningful and truthful. Instead of "Your hair is pretty," try "I really like the way you did your hair tonight! It looks so beautiful." or instead of ¨I like your eyes¨ be like; ¨Your eyes are the most beautiful shade of -whatever- today.¨
Say what you like about what you like! Any guy can say a boring old compliment, but when it is personalised she will cherish it.

Don't take her for granted. Keep in mind that she could leave you whenever she wanted, so you'd better work hard at keeping her happy so that you can keep her as your girlfriend.



AND do not use her past against her. Seriously, if you want a FUTURE with her, don´t bring the past up in arguments or judge her too harshly.

Advice: My Routine

VIA FORMSPRING: rite about your daily morning routine. Like all hair and makeup stuff



Okay, firstly I will say this is a tad weird, ha ha. o,o
But...

When I wake up I usually have a cigarette/coffee. Without Coffee lately I have no energy or motivation to do anything and my emotional scale doesn't progress from a monotonous lull.

Anyways...

- I was my face. Because I have piercings and sometimes left over mascara runs down my face.

- I shower, washing my extensions very delicatly because I loves them and don't want them to fall out.

- When I get out of the shower I put on a bra and underwear so I'm not chilling nude.

- I blow dry my hair half the way, again I do this very delicately. And I never dry it all the way through because it damages your extensions. Especially the bleached blonde ones :)

- For makeup I apply foundation, liquid first and then powder. Yes, I layer it on. Why? Because I HATE my face - aye der. Then comes eyeliner, lower and upper lid.

-Whilst waiting for my face to dry, in a way, I comb my hair and turn my straightner on.

- Then I apply mascara and lipstick.

- Straighten hair

- Find clothes.














o.o Hope that was helpfull.